But He Looks Good on Paper

Have you ever met that guy or that girl and he or she seemed to have it goin' on? I'm talking great job, nice ride, their own crib (nicely decorated and furnished), bank account with an actual balance, very attractive, and so fly! They have all the makings of an ideal mate because they seem to be independent and all the way together. You're happy to have someone that you can brag about! Only problem is, what he or she has in "checklist attributes" they are lacking in character, morals, personality, and/or intelligence. They have all the things that make them desirable from the outside looking in, but when you REALLY look in...it's just a big ugly mess!

It's fine to have standards and expectations when looking for that man or that woman that you want to spend your days and nights with. What's NOT fine is to put in place of inner qualities, those tangible qualities for the sake of bragging rights. Yes, it feels good to be able to talk about your other half's accomplishments but it should feel better to have that inner peace and to be happy with the level of love, respect and friendship that you're receiving from them. It takes more than status and money and "things" to make a healthy, commited relationship. There are people who have all of this and yet they are dying inside. They don't love themselves so they don't know how to love anyone else. To these type of people, accomplishments and accolades "make" them. Without the money, or the fly car, or the group of followers, they wouldn't know what to do with themselves. Clearly, any unhappiness on the inside is going to spill over into any relationships this person has.

All in all, choose qualities in a potential mate that can't be purchased with any amount of money. They don't have to be completely broke, I mean, we need him or her to have some type of ambition! But that guy with the spankin' new Benz and the fat bank account could be a complete jerk while the guy with the regular 9-5 driving some regular car could be that one to make you feel your best! Fellas, don't count out the girl who works in the call center for the glamour girl. Look past the tangible because that is where the happiness dwells.