Diva Confessions: When Dating Goes Wrong

I'm one half of a pair now, but I was single for quite some time before putting the love on lockdown. Like most women, I've had to kiss alot of frogs before finding my Prince Charming. With all of my bad purchases from the men department I have quite a few stories to tell--some funny, some bad, and some just too sad to be anything else! It never ceases to amaze me how many loser guys there are out here. Take a look at what I mean...

The guy I dated who, after two weeks of dating, asked me my pay pattern. He wanted to know if I got paid weekly or bi-weekly so that during the months I received an "extra" paycheck, he could have it to support his gambling habits! (Imagine how long he lasted after that.)

The guy who took me to dinner with a stolen gift card that ended up not having any funds on it. He actually was upset when the waitress came back to the table to tell him there wasn't enough to cover the meal and really expected for me to help pay for it!

The guy with the trust issues that waited for me to come home one evening and jumped out of the bushes to make sure I was alone!

The dysfunctional alcoholic asshole who decided to bite the shit out of my left arm one night after an argument! (8 years later I still have the scar)

ETC, ETC, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...

I was beginning to think I was a rest haven for the lost and the useless. I felt like a job that was only accepting applications from losers. Dating was just...a bust! It's hard to keep the faith that there's a good man out there just for you when all you seem to meet are a bunch of randoms. Dating can get totally and utterly ugly but when Mr. (Almost) Perfect comes along, it makes your time in the trenches all worthwhile.

Don't give up. Take a break if need be, but don't give up on finding that special "he" to compliment your sexy swag.

Know what you want, but be willing to be a little flexible. That list of requirements shouldn't be written in stone. Tunnel vision is a no-no. Sometimes, you have to bend a little to see that what you thought you wanted isn't always what you need.

Don't be scurred to ask the questions that matter to you. If you're looking for a relationship, you need to find out if he is. Ask your questions early on and expect nothing less than clear, concise & honest answers. Miscommunication sucks and makes for a wasted experience.

Never settle just for the sake of saying you're off the market. Although it may seem like you've been on countless dates with countless guys, don't begin to make excuses for guys you know you wouldn't normally consider being with. Trust your instincts and keep it moving. Being single may not be what you want but you can do bad all by yourself.

Don't get jaded. Keep the faith that when it's meant to be it will be--no matter how long it's taking. Give every guy you decide to try out the benefit. Afterall, he is innocent until proven guilty.

Have fun. Alot of times when us ladies are looking to be in a relationship, the fun gets lost in translation. Lighten up! Your sanity in the dating world depends on it!

Dating often goes wrong, but in the grand scheme of things, all it takes is that one "right" to change your outlook.

Truly yours,

Tay.