How Independent is TOO Independent?

Nowadays, we as women are more independent than ever. Not only do we bring home the bacon, but we fryin' it up too! We're out here holding it down--full-time career women, mothers, wives/girlfriends, students & socialites all wrapped up in one gorgeous & fly package. Vacays, shopping sprees & nice dinners are being paid for courtesy of who?...yours truly. Home improvement projects as well as that fresh wax job on that fly whip...taken care of by who?...muah. I feel so blessed to be one of these strong and independent women who is more than capable of taking care of herself, but the question existing is what place or role do I play with the opposite sex?

I've heard men joke that today's women are basically one step away from lesbian because of the way we're providing for ourselves. Although the joke is funny (well not really) I can see where it applies. I'm not the voice of all women so I can't speak for everyone but personally, I don't feel as though I am so independent as to where a man cannot play his part/role in my life. There is a song by Jill Scott called (The Fact Is) I Need You ("Words and Sounds Vol. 2", #4) and I love it because Jill sings so passionately about how even though she can do so much for herself that she still needs her man. Let's first clarify what I mean by "need" because some women take that word with such a negative connotation. Needing your man doesn't mean that you're incapable or needy, clinging to his every word. By design, there are roles that we play as men and as women and I truly believe that. No matter how much we can do on our own, ladies, stop screaming that you don't need nothing from a man! Because the minute a man doesn't play his part who starts screaming about that??? Own your independence and take pride in it but don't let it hinder a relationship with a man. The very fact that we women do so much on the day to day, it should feel nice to stop, take a breather and let a man do some things for us. This doesn't make you any less of a woman. So, whether you're Wonder Woman, Super Woman or Every Woman, just remember that you should never be so much woman that you can't allow a man to be a man.

*Disclaimer: When I say "man" in this post, that refers to mature, responsible, employed, ambitious, educated, bank account-having, vehicle and apt/home in his own name-type, good credit-having brothers.*