My Position, Secure

I'll get straight to the point: when in a relationship, there is no room for insecurity. You have to know your position and play it to the best of your abilities. Your confidence, sexiness, "swagginess" all has to be front and center and ready for action. Why? Because chicks who want what you have will be watching and ready to take your spot at any given moment. They can sniff out your insecurities from a mile away and will play on them until your man becomes their prize. Nothing in life is a guarantee, but there are some surefire ways to keep you an MVP in your man's eyes:



~Stay sexy~ Be that hot chick that caught his eye as much as possible. Sleep in a slinky nightie instead of those jogging pants and oversized tee! Keep that figure rockin, those feet soft and pedi'd, those hands soft and mani'd, that lipgloss poppin, and that hair and wardrobe fly!



~Don't fish for compliments~ This makes you look desperate. Your man will compliment you when he notices the goods. If you have to dig for it, he won't sound sincere and that is just going to hurt your feelings or upset you. Another thing, when he does compliment you, just say "thank you" and leave it at that!



~Maintain your own interests~ If you were into reading novels and crocheting before him, continue on with those hobbies while you're with him. There's nothing worse than when a girl's life revolves completely around her guy. Be that interesting, well-rounded girl he fell in love with instead of a carbon copy of him.



~Be (and stay) a beast in the bedroom~ If you can't be a freak for your man then who can you be one for? Change it up, try some new things (some toys, a sexy fit, some role play), and cater to both of your fantasies. He'll always remember your creativity and your willingness to please him.



~Communicate openly and honestly~ This is the age-old & timeless key to keeping your relationship healthy. Don't wait until you all have a disagreement to tell him how you REALLY feel! Even in happier times its fine to talk about things that need to be discussed. No need to yell or place blame, just talk. Be honest yet tactful with your opinions and be open to receive feedback. Don't harbor on issues. Communicate, solve (or agree to disagree), and move on. Don't dwell! There's too much love to be made!



It's alot of work, but if your man is a good man and you know he's worth it, then doing what you gotta to keep your position secure should become second nature. Trust me ladies!