Diva Confessions: My Man Has Groupies
If you thought you had to be strong in your relationship, I bet that I could one up you. See, my man is an entertainer, and although he hasn't technically "made it big" yet, his name is becoming more and more familiar across the country. Of course his rising fame has its advantages, but one disadvantage (for me) is the seemingly endless stream of women who will do anything for a piece of what he has. And that means what, you ask?...it means groupies. I know that I have yet to see the worst of it, but I'm gearing up and getting practice tested already.
The funny thing about groupies is that they're enthralled with an "image". They have their sights set on fucking an image! Yes, these men are talented, etc. but if you think for one moment that what you're seeing is 100% true to life, then you're absolutely deluded!
So anywho, I've been asked how is it that I'm able to maintain my composure when some of these women are comparable to vultures. Truthfully, it's hard. It's hard because no matter how happy or secure you are in your relationship there's going to be someone coming real hard at what you hold so dearly. You know that she couldn't care less about what he has at home...all she wants is what she wants.
Now, back to these "practice tests"...One night at a show, I stood back as I normally do, making sure to not crowd his space. Some "random" approached him and got a little too close for (my) comfort. I almost laid hands to her but had to remember that I was in his world so I maintained my composure. That small incident opened my eyes in a big way. I also see things via "social networking sites". Yes, I see certain comments that are made by females but it just doesn't matter to me. It's like yes, please think he's hot & sexy because that makes you purchase his cd's & buy tix to his shows which eventually equates to me driving a Bentley coupe through the big ass gates of a mansion that he and I will share! And speaking of social networking sites, some females are not slick! Stop playing the cool hand with me all the while trynna get w/ my man! I see you...I simply choose to not make it known. And trust me when I say, he tells me EVERYTHING...we're close like that...
I'm fully aware that groupies come with the territory. It's taken at face value and pretty much, it is what it is. He and I have shared detailed communications about the pros and cons of this game. We're fully aware of how one another views those pros and cons as well as how we'll choose to handle them. Afterall, this is the life we chose.
9 Rants & Raves:
Not to rattle your feather but to my knowledge the man you call your husband was with someone when you got him this may be true or not true but do you think what goes around doesnt come around. You was one of his same groupies standing in the background of a performance when his other girl was standing right besides him but maybe that never dawned on you and your only speaking from your perspective now dont make it seem like your innocent when talking.Give examples of your past life cause you was once that same groupie and sex addicted female to any nigga who had a name in Cleveland.
Anonymous, first I would like to thank you for following my blog so closely, the support is great! Secondly, not that I owe you or anyone else any explanation but I'll humor you, the particular show that you're referring to I was APART OF as a stage model, (I have the video of the performance as confirmation :-)) Anyway, my innocence or lack thereof was not the topic of my post, maybe you should re-read it. If anything from my past can help out another young lady I would be more than happy to speak on it or write about it. Is there anything in particular that you need help with hun? Clearly, I can only speak from my perspective as this is MY blog ("my thoughts, my opinions, my way...") and the comment section is for my readers' opinions & thoughts (this is why I'm choosing to publish your comment because you seem to be a faithful reader) Trust, you're not ruffling, or as you put it, "rattling" my feathers..."Someone once told me that you can't win a fight with someone who's not really there. "Anonymous" is defined as having an unknown or unacknowledged name. Nuff said." ~quoted from "Inanet Gangstas Come Out & Play", another one of my posts :-)
Anonymous, be blessed and have a fab day!
DAMN MY BABY GOT A WAY WITH WORDS:")
Tay,U didnt answer the question she asked??? Do u believe what goes around comes around??? The same way you got him youll lose him? Worried at all?
Oops! I didn't answer that question...but no, I'm not worried about that. I don't live my life scared or wondering "what if?". I know that today, in the present, he and I are happy. Yes, I definitely believe in "what goes around comes around", but the funny thing is that I didn't slip in and manipulate a man out of a "happy home" to be with me, so who says I did anything wrong? His decision to leave where he was was solely on his own terms, and please note that men don't leave happy situations. (If you don't believe me, ask any man) I'm well aware of the old adage "the way you get em is the way you lose em", so since I got him when he was unhappy and looking for happiness, I guess since he found that with me I'd better make sure that I keep him that way! :-)
...on another note, I'm glad that you feel just that comfy with me to refer to me by my nickname :-)
"Anonymous" (writer of the first comment), just know that I am open to all comments, good, bad or otherwise, but you get just ONE to talk crazy. I'm sure you'll be lurking in the cut to see what my response will be to your latest, well, here it is, and our conversation ends here. I'm done entertaining you and your shenanigans and that crap will not be posted. Clearly it makes you feel like a big person to type a bunch of garbage while hiding behind your computer screen. I propose that you take whatever animosity that you have towards me, and channel it into something more positive to help YOU. May I suggest blogging? LOL! Many muahs, and again have a fab one!
Tay u know ur situation and how it all went down very well. Why after a whole year of happiness are u still having to explain yourself?? Seems like ur readers already know enough of your biz and have already made up their minds about what to think of u.
So why even bother to ask? Being nosey, or being "funny". The nigga wasnt happy, he moved on...that does happen in life. And a year later still going strong. that should be enough! Anything more to say about the situation at this point is clearly just an attack on your character. I mean do they truly wanna knw what happened? cause there are better ways of asking...ways that don't include basically callin you cleveland's own slut.
I mean for real - this is YOUR blog not no gotdamnit Judge Mathis or some shit so quit entertaining folks who just wanna be nosey or who somehow think their opinions matter. In the end, only god can judge u anyways so who really gives a fcuk what another mutha gots to say?? And if u wasnt a party involved why do u even care so much??? L-I-G it snitches...we off that!
Jay, thanks for the support. I definitely don't mind answering questions that have "good intent" behind them. I have chosen to put certain aspects of my life and how I feel about things on display, so I expect comments and questions. The problem comes in when cowards decide to try to come and "air me out" and get crazy with how they choose to express themselves. The funny thing is, is that had "anonymous" made her comments under her actual name & picture, I would've had more respect for her! I just really cannot respect the "inanet gangstas"...Let's not be a sucka, you know. At any rate, yup, the he and I are still going strong after being together a little over a year now and love it, like it or hate it, we ain't stoppin!
And I LOVE "L-I-G It!"
First, the only thing I have a problem with is if a man or woman is married and if they are not happy instead of cheating be honest and tell your spouse that this isn't going to work, then leave the unhappy situation.
Second, no matter how one has obtained their relationship status. The truth of the matter is that no one can TAKE any one from someone else. People leave relationship of their own accord. Maybe for different reasons. Maybe they are bored, not happy or whatever the situation but no one can make anyone leave someone else. Sometimes one may regret their actions because the grass isn't always greener. But that is part of life, learning from ones mistakes. When someone is in the entertainment industry, whether it be a band at the corner bar or Jayz there is always someone attracted to them for that very reason. They don't know the person as they are they just see the talent and dollar signs. If you are in a relationship with someone who is in the industry you just have to have faith in each other and in your love that no one will have that much power to come between you. THAT'S WHAT LOVE IS. TRUST, HONESTY, COMMUNICATION, COMMITMENT. The devil is always going to try and break-up a home, trust in GOD and yourselves and everything will be okay. If down the line you feel it's not going to work, talk about it and deal with it accordingly. Also, don't tell people your business, because the people you think are your friends will be the first to try and sleep with your man/woman.
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