Toxic People

For alot of us, 2010 is all about positivity and being an all-around better person. Part of that process entails getting rid of the people around you who bring nothing but negative energy. Having negativity within your circle takes away from the blessings that you receive, or could receive. There are some people in this world who are just so negative that they are actually "toxic". They are just like vampires, literally draining the life out of you! It's inevitable that you're going to run across a toxic person or two at some point in your life. The key is to be able to identify them and then get as far away from them as you possibly can. According to www.counseling.suite.101.com, there are four types of toxic people aka "emotional vampires":

• The Criticizer – This is somebody who is convinced that he/she has the God-given right to deliver what they think is constructive criticism, even if they tear the other person to shreds. They claim to be good with people, yet have zero sensitivity.

• The Drainer – Once they sink their claws into their victims it's hard to shake off a drainer. They are in somebody's life because they need encouragement and help, but have no time for others. In their minds, a give and take relationship is to give nothing and take as much as they can.

• The Know-It-All – Whatever the subject might be, they know everything there is to know about it. Not only this, but they enjoy rubbing it in everyone's faces. They emit a certain confidence and authority that can easily fool others. (Oh boy do I know a few of these! But I won't say any names LOL!)

• The Dream Killer – Big dreams and creativity are essential for new discoveries and inventions. These people are locked in a constant state of what is, instead of what could be.

If you know any of these types of people, it's best for you to kick them to the curb. At one point, I was "friends" with the "Criticizer/Know-It-All". She started out totally great, but no sooner than I thought she was a great friend did her true colors begin to show. Slowly but surely she started taking shots at me, my life, my clothes, everything! She always said "I'm just looking out for you!", but clearly that wasn't the case. She was just toxic through and through. There is nothing that can be done or said to make a toxic person less negative. Their sole purpose is to bring you down to their level of misery and as we all know, misery don't need anymore company...she has enough! Stay positive and surround yourself with positive, genuine, ambitious people who really do have your best interest at heart. Always remember that anyone who isn't for you is against you and a toxic people aren't for anyone except themselves.

Source: http://counseling.suite101.com